Some guy bothered you trying to get your attention and the fact that the
crowd of people didn't rescue you from arguing with him means "rapeculture"?
I've seen a few rants to that effect lately and it's total bullshit.
How often do people go out of their way to get involved in any argument between two strangers? How often do you? When two people are screaming at each other about one of them taking the spot the other wanted in a parking lot, how likely is it that people are going to head away so they don't have to deal with it, rather than heading toward the noise to see if they can help? How often do you see youtube videos where instead of stopping to help somebody getting their ass kicked, people stop to record it instead? How often do you see people stranded on the side of the road for long periods of time while hundreds of cars pass by, simply because nobody stops to help? Have you not heard of cases where somebody preventably died from an injury, hear attack, etc. while people were crowded around them, simply because nobody bothered to call 911?
Are people just not aware of the concept of "mob mentality" anymore? People generally don't want to be the first person to assert themself and get involved in any case where there's a group doing nothing. That's just the way it is with everything. When you're yelling at somebody on a crowded bus, don't be surprised when nobody wants to stick their neck out by both asserting themself from the crowd and white-knighting for you. It's not "rapeculture" that keeps them from doing it. It's general human social nature.
It is the ultimate narcisism to see people not treating your issue any differently from every other issue simply because it is important to you and you interpret that as "a unique systemic form of oppression."
That's not "rapeculture." That's rape hysteria.
I've more than once had to put myself in danger to protect somebody and I can tell you, it's a crap shoot whether the person you're trying to help will end up being friend or foe based on your involvement. Try to break up a fight between two people and they could both just end up fighting you, instead of each other. There was a particular incident that stands out for me where a single guy, too drunk to stand reliably was about to get jumped by 6 larger, more coordinated guys who thought he was slinging ethnic slurs at them. I physically had to place myself in front of him and fend off/absorb the brunt of their aggression so they didn't literally beat him to death. After I'd called the police and they flat out refused to show up or even file a report on the incident (is that "hatecrimeculture"?) the guy who was only still breathing due to my interference on his behalf used that very breath to call me "asshole."
Put yourself first, get called "rape supporter" for not doing anything. Put the "victim" first, maybe get called a rapist for your trouble.
That's not "rapeculture." That's rape hysteria.
I know, it's super-duper scary with all the hysteria about rape these days, to have a man try to actually get your attention and -gasp- interact with you in some way. Still, some dude bothering you on a crowded bus is not the same thing as him raping you. Those people you think were participating in "rapeculture" probably could just see you were not in serious danger by the fact that:
a. you were sitting there arguing with him, instead of trying to get away from him
b. he was not physically attacking you
c. you were in a public setting with other people available to help if things went really bad
d. you were not asking for help from anybody else
If you want to require people to automatically rush to the aid of the damsel in (minor) distress every time some man says something she finds unpleasant, then I suggest you start a social movement to turn the clock back to before "equality" was a goal, because that's the "oppressive" way things used to be. Men used to duel over stupid shit like "offending a lady." If, however, you want to be taken seriously as a capable adult human, equal to men, you're going to have to "man up" and fight your own "battles" (to use the term loosely) on occasion.
I've seen a few rants to that effect lately and it's total bullshit.
Point #1:
People don't like to set themselves apart from the group, especially when it involves conflict or inconvenience.How often do people go out of their way to get involved in any argument between two strangers? How often do you? When two people are screaming at each other about one of them taking the spot the other wanted in a parking lot, how likely is it that people are going to head away so they don't have to deal with it, rather than heading toward the noise to see if they can help? How often do you see youtube videos where instead of stopping to help somebody getting their ass kicked, people stop to record it instead? How often do you see people stranded on the side of the road for long periods of time while hundreds of cars pass by, simply because nobody stops to help? Have you not heard of cases where somebody preventably died from an injury, hear attack, etc. while people were crowded around them, simply because nobody bothered to call 911?
Are people just not aware of the concept of "mob mentality" anymore? People generally don't want to be the first person to assert themself and get involved in any case where there's a group doing nothing. That's just the way it is with everything. When you're yelling at somebody on a crowded bus, don't be surprised when nobody wants to stick their neck out by both asserting themself from the crowd and white-knighting for you. It's not "rapeculture" that keeps them from doing it. It's general human social nature.
It is the ultimate narcisism to see people not treating your issue any differently from every other issue simply because it is important to you and you interpret that as "a unique systemic form of oppression."
That's not "rapeculture." That's rape hysteria.
Point #2:
There is no guarantee that sticking your neck out for somebody else will be appreciated.I've more than once had to put myself in danger to protect somebody and I can tell you, it's a crap shoot whether the person you're trying to help will end up being friend or foe based on your involvement. Try to break up a fight between two people and they could both just end up fighting you, instead of each other. There was a particular incident that stands out for me where a single guy, too drunk to stand reliably was about to get jumped by 6 larger, more coordinated guys who thought he was slinging ethnic slurs at them. I physically had to place myself in front of him and fend off/absorb the brunt of their aggression so they didn't literally beat him to death. After I'd called the police and they flat out refused to show up or even file a report on the incident (is that "hatecrimeculture"?) the guy who was only still breathing due to my interference on his behalf used that very breath to call me "asshole."
Put yourself first, get called "rape supporter" for not doing anything. Put the "victim" first, maybe get called a rapist for your trouble.
That's not "rapeculture." That's rape hysteria.
Point #3:
You were not being raped.I know, it's super-duper scary with all the hysteria about rape these days, to have a man try to actually get your attention and -gasp- interact with you in some way. Still, some dude bothering you on a crowded bus is not the same thing as him raping you. Those people you think were participating in "rapeculture" probably could just see you were not in serious danger by the fact that:
a. you were sitting there arguing with him, instead of trying to get away from him
b. he was not physically attacking you
c. you were in a public setting with other people available to help if things went really bad
d. you were not asking for help from anybody else
If you want to require people to automatically rush to the aid of the damsel in (minor) distress every time some man says something she finds unpleasant, then I suggest you start a social movement to turn the clock back to before "equality" was a goal, because that's the "oppressive" way things used to be. Men used to duel over stupid shit like "offending a lady." If, however, you want to be taken seriously as a capable adult human, equal to men, you're going to have to "man up" and fight your own "battles" (to use the term loosely) on occasion.
Throwing a tantrum, because nobody stepped in to keep you from being talked to in a public setting isn't "equality." That's "sense of entitlement."
And people not going out of their way to rescue you from arguing with somebody isn't "rapeculture." The fact that you are calling it "rapeculture" is just rape hysteria.